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iT’S oKAY tO bE nON aMBITIOUS…dREAMING fOR sOMETHING sIMPLE!

My previous post was about chasing our dreams before it gets lost, but this one is for those who have simple dreams. Their dreams are pretty simple. When you ask them about their dream life and their future life, their answer would be:

A simple home in the country side, A loving partner or none at all, a simple life style far from the buzz of the city, a small home, a simple vehicle for transport, a satisfying job with a minimal salary, etc.

But they all would be choosy with one thing. They would want their passion to be with them, it could be their loved one or it could be a profession or something they always longed to do. But definitely not the conventional dreams, that’s for sure. There ambition is to be peaceful.

They are the non ambitious ones, their chase for dreams do not fall in the rat race. They are happy with the small things that life could offer. The simple fragrance of flower could give them the immense joy that a 100 dollars could not. They choose to have a happy and peaceful life over materialistic things. These are defintiely the rare creatures.

They have to face the world where people often remind them that their dreams are too small. People call them stupid. When the whole wide world rushes behind luxurious brands, they simply love the comfort of a relaxed morning coffee. When people expect expensive gifts, a simple flower and a letter saying how much you care for them can be enough for them to rejoice.

These great old souls suffer a lot to adjust with the society. They are minimalist and essentialist. This piece is for them. It’s okay to be non ambitious, it’s okay to be happy with simple things. It’s okay to choose peace and satisfaction over any other materialistic thing. It’s okay to live your life in your own way!

@minishells

Do you?

How many of us, say that to ourselves and actually mean it? How many times have you said that to yourself! And treat yourself the way you would treat the person whom you love the most!

Make it a practice to do so! Love yourself for your wins & losses, for your strengths & weaknesses, for everything you were, you are and you ever will be!

Just Love yourself more, more than you did yesterday! [also make sure that you don’t love only yourself, love everything & everyone for what/how they are] And don’t mistake love over attachment!

@minishells

Arrange your dominos!

You remember that thing you were so longing to do, start doing it! This is the sign! And for those who have already started it, keep doing it!

I know that feel, it might seem stupid, or as if it’s so little, you might be thinking “what difference is it gonna make?” oh! Trust me, it makes a huge difference! It might seem so small now, but slowly it will grow, more importantly you will grow with it tooo! And your growth [however small it might seem] will be an inspiration for others, to start living their dreams or to start loving their life [or themselves]!

Start arranging your dominos now! Let it hit ’em alll!

@minishells

Changing yourself!

How often do we complain about the world not being fair or that it’s not changing for the good! But what are we really doing to improve ourselves!

Our environment, culture, practices & habits have a huge influence upon us! But when we don’t feel aligned with it, instead of sticking to the old patterns, try to be more aware and start making those changes which you are longing to make!

We can change the world only by changing ourselves and by acting as influencers!

We have only ourselves to compete, to push and to challenge to be our own better selves! Are you becoming a better person than before that’s all is important!When everyone tries to become their own better selves, the world becomes better tooo!

@minishells

No one is born evil!

This is a para from the book

THE SILENT PATIENT

BY ALEX MICHAELIDES

“Sometimes it’s hard to grasp why the answers to the present lie in the past. A simple analogy might be helpful; a leading psychiatrist in the field of sexual abuse once told me she had, in thirty years of extensive work with pedophiles, never met one who hadn’t himself been abused as a child. This doesn’t mean that all abused children go on to become abusers, but it is impossible for someone who was not abused to become an abuser. As Winnicott puts it “A BABY CANNOT HATE THE MOTHER, WITHOUT THE MOTHER FIRST HATING THE BABY”

No one is born evil. As babies, we are innocent, sponges, blank slates, with only the most basic needs present; to eat, shit, love and be loved. But something goes wrong depending on the circumstances into which we are born and the house in which we grow up.”

As said here, not everyone ends up evil even with a not so comforting environment. Make that choice for yourself. You need not hurt others just because you were hurt by other people!

Environment might decide your circumstances but you can definitely control how you choose to consider the experiences! Changing our attitude from feeling victimized to taking control of our life, we shift our focus on the growth rather than the destruction caused!

@minishells

“Hey, you were the one asking for it!”

A thousand things might or might not happen if you don’t get something! And the more you think about those possibilities, the more it comes true! Life be like “hey you were the one asking for it!”

So start focusing on how you could do something ! Instead of worrying about the results, that may or may not come!

Focus more on how you could achieve something and why you want or need that!

Hey I’m not asking you to not prepare for the worse! Do it if you want to! Just don’t add the fear tag to it! It will all end up great! Trust the bigger picture! Afterall hope is what we can all have!

@minishells

What now?

Only the present is for you right now! The future is in the hands of your future you!

The more you think about past or the future, you forget the one thing you could do that is being present!

There’s a belief of an eternal now, where the past, present, and the future happens simultaneously!

You are taking over as your past or future self instead of being the present self! You are loosing everything that you could do now!

I’m not saying not to plan anything or to not revisit your memories, Do it to enjoy it not to escape from the present!

Accept the present and be grateful for everything! Oooh it’s not at all easy, but if we could slowly learn the art of enjoying the present, then your present self can live truely!

What can you do now, is what that matters the most!

@minishells

Why not easy?

Easy or hard…. It’s individualistic . It depends on our perspective towards life

Life makes you strong, when you open yourself to the happenings. Believe that it’s there to help you grow.

Life isn’t there to take revenge on you. We have developed a revenge or punishment aspect to karma. No it isn’t it! Life doesn’t punish you. It helps you to observe your actions and values. It reflects back your thoughts to let you see it in a different perspective. To correct what you may now feel as mistakes, which you couldn’t realise when you did it!

It helps us to become a better person, who’s understanding, caring, kind, intelligent & compassionate in our own ways

@minishells